Good communication connects us with people and increases our feeling of belonging.


Could be easy – but talking holds lots of space for misunderstanding.


To keep it simple:


Communication = Sender + Receiver + Message + Interpretation


The four-sides model by Friedemann Schulz von Thun explains four facets which influence the understanding of the message, either for the sender and the receiver.



1.      Fact: Data, facts, statements that I inform about

2.      Self-reveiling: Information about myself

3.      Relationship: What I think about our relationship

4.      Appeal: What I wish you to do



Interprets the message with one of the four facets.


Sounds so easy in theory. And then reality hits 😉. Will give an example in one of my next posts.